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Last week I shared some tips for hermes bag uk adoptive parents who already have children.  Here are some more:

Prepare 

So much is hermes bag uk involved in the adoption of a child, and that process can hermes bag uk be all consuming.  However, it hermes bag uk is critical that your preparation ensure that your children have ample time to hermes bag uk adjust to the arrival of a new child and to be hermes bag uk prepared to provide support for that child as a new member of the hermes bag uk family.  There are hermes bag uk several ways to do this, and you should start as soon as you hermes bag uk have certainty that a new child will be coming.
 
Books and Movies to Build Context

Children under the age of 10 are hermes bag uk unlikely to have the proper intellectual context to get the idea of adoption.  Books and movies can help.

There are dozens of children’s books available today that hermes bag uk portray the experience of a new adopted sibling, such as:
 
The Magical Friendship Garden
What is Adoption? hermes sample sale paris 
 
…and movies such as Disney’s Snow Dogs.
 
Begin introducing storybooks and hermes bag uk your own created stories at bedtime around the idea of adopting a hermes bag uk new child.    The first step in preparing a child is helping him/her create a “cognitive context” for the process.  Children under 10 may have hermes bag uk trouble connecting the dots associated with adoption, so first you need to hermes bag uk help them establish a framework for understanding it.
 
Role play
 
Role play is hermes bag uk the single most effective parenting tool there is for dealing with troubling issues of all kinds.  I always recommend that hermes bag uk families incorporate role play into their lives on a regular basis and hermes bag uk make it a ritualistic form of communicating, sharing and problem solving.
 
Role play simply implies acting out scenarios, allowing you hermes bag uk and your children to switch roles back and forth to experiment with what hermes bag uk is going to happen and how everyone in the scenario acts and hermes bag uk feels.
 
Role playing adoption will be hermes bag uk much more effective after you have established context with books and/or movies.
 
Invite your hermes bag uk child to play the role of himself, the adopted child, or hermes bag uk the parent.  Take turns switching.  Suggest language that hermes bag uk the child can use toward the adopted child and toward the hermes bag uk parent. 
 
With children under 6 you hermes bag uk will find that the use of puppets, stuffed animals or any object that hermes bag uk serves as a role in your play will help your child project difficult feelings and hermes bag uk explore them.  Projection is hermes bag uk a healthy process for young children, who are naturally inclined to hermes bag uk internalize what they feel and then act it out in destructive behavior.   Role play provides a healthy “solution stage” for children who don’t yet have hermes bag uk the sophisticated vocabulary or cognitive processes to solve emotional problems and hermes bag uk communicate constructively with you.

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Parents who hermes bag uk bring an adopted child into a home with their own children often experience problems right from hermes bag uk the start. 

Their children see the hermes bag uk adopted child as a competitive force drawing attention away from them.  And because they did not have the visual of mommy’s tummy growing over time, the hermes bag uk arrival of a new child seems sudden and confusing. 

Most children begin acting out immediately after the hermes bag uk arrival of the new child, and it can take many forms, from hermes bag uk tantrums to becoming extra needy, and it is all intended to hermes bag uk snatch the parents’ attention away and put it back where it belongs.
 
How can hermes bag uk you prevent negative reactions by your children to an adopted child and hermes bag uk encourage supportive behavior?
 
Guaranteed “me time”
 
All children, whether they are hermes bag uk natural siblings or natural and adopted, need guaranteed one-on-one time with parents.  This “me time” is hermes bag uk where you focus on that child with undivided attention, doing something you hermes bag uk both enjoy, or doing nothing and just being together. 

For your child, this is a message of security and protection.  Children seek attention not out of a hermes bag uk superficial need, but because attention equates with protection and watchfulness. 

If your child knows he has your attention, he feels safe.  These are hermes bag uk subconscious feelings, and his behavior is motivated by them. So, naturally, when hermes bag uk a new child comes into the home, and more of your hermes bag uk attention is given to him or her, your child feels the hermes bag uk deficit. 

The way to counter this is by scheduling “me time” with your hermes bag uk child on a predictable basis, perhaps daily or weekly, even for hermes bag uk just 5, 10 or 15 minutes. 

“Me time” doesn’t have to be lengthy, but it does have to be reliable.  Being able to hermes bag uk count on your undivided attention will have an immediate calming effect on your hermes bag uk child.  Parents are hermes bag uk often amazed at how quickly children respond to this simple gesture, but it hermes bag uk works 100% of the time, when done consistently.

More tips for adoptive parents in next week’s post on this subject.  Subscribe to get that post by email.

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